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Why We Blame the Parents
My mother tried to raise me bilingual. I only started talking when I was 4-5 years old (my father jokes that I learned how to read before I learned how to speak, which might be true if by ‘read’ you...
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Finding That Co-Parent…
When I found out that the theme for this month’s Carnival of Aces is “Dating and Significant Others”, at first I thought “but I have no experience whatsoever with dating, and I have little interest in...
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“Going to College” and the Old Neighborhood
I spent almost all of my childhood in the same neighborhood, and there were a set of other kids in my age range who lived within walking distance of my home. We also (mostly) went to the same...
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It’s harder for me to figure out my romantic orientation…
I think I’ve known on some level that I am asexual and aromantic from a very young age (let’s say 10 years old), though it’s taken more than a decade to actually start identifying that way. Identifying...
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Alone at Home
I remember, the first night that I slept in my current dwelling, it dawned on me that this was the first time in my entire life that I was living alone. I was not temporarily alone because everybody...
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A Turning Point
Is the world better because I existed? I think it will never be possible to answer that question in an objective way. However, I feel that, for most of my life, that I have taken more than I have...
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My Parents are Sometimes Cooler than I Realized
When I read Queenie’s open letter to parents about how to talk to one’s children about gender and sexuality, the thing which struck me the most was … my parents didn’t need that letter (well, not most...
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One-Year Anniversary
This blog is already a year old … time flies when you’re having fun. When I started this blog, I was determined to make it a regularly updated blog, so I vowed to have a new post up at least once a...
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So, I Use “the Power of Negative Thinking”, Eh?
So, I occasionally intentionally and consciously think about “downer” topics, as I discussed in the posts “Why Tragic Fiction is Important” and “Fear of Death”. In both of these posts (particularly the...
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Aaron Swartz Day
If you still don’t know about what happened to Aaron Swartz, you should read this, (the rest of these links are TW: suicide), this, this, this, and this. And then, if you can, sign this petition (the...
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Another reason it took me so long to identify as asexual…
When I was in high school, it eventually became apparent that I was a lot less interested in pursuing romance and sex than my peers. While they were moments when I thought ‘hmmm, I wonder why I am not...
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Dancing as a Traditional “Nontraditional” Relationship
This month’s topic for the Carnival of Aces is “nontraditional relationships and polyamory.” At first, I thought I might talk about boundaries for future relationships, but that’s so ‘potential’ that I...
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I am Not a Keeper of Sex
So, some days ago, I read the thought-provoking “Why men are the sexual hunters and women are considered ‘keepers of sex’ – and what can be done to address this imbalance”. It’s not thought-provoking...
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Why I’m Not Out to my Father
Currently, I am not out as an ace to my father. Why not? I don’t think he would react badly, in fact I suspect he would react to it better than my mother did. But that’s part of why I felt that I had...
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Stop the Keystone XL Pipeline!
I cannot personally attend any of the upcoming rallies against the Keystone XL pipeline, and I don’t participate in Facebook or Twitter. But I can post this online: You can learn more about how you can...
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Compulsory Sexuality Hurt My Mother
I read this section of Women, Passion, and Celibacy | Chapter One: “Genital Messages”… I wasn’t alive during the 60s and most aces (hell, most people) I know were not either. I’m going to take Cline’s...
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The Benefits of Speaking Up
Unlike many active ace-spectrum bloggers, I am currently not a formal student or affiliated with any institution of higher learning, but I too was once a college student. One of the last courses I took...
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My First Attempt to Discuss Asexuality in Mandarin
This is for the February 2013 Carnival of Aces. A few months ago, I discussed why I hadn’t tried to talk about asexuality in Mandarin. Since this month’s carnival theme is ‘language’, and especially...
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I Don’t Want to Be in a Couple
Recently, I’ve read a bit about ‘couple privilege’, specifically in the context of polyamory, but it definitely exists in society at large too. This has set off a lightbulb in my head. I don’t want to...
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The Way I Approach Personal Finance Makes Me Weird
Society forges life templates for people. This is not necessarily a bad thing – it can help people collectively make good decisions – but sometimes the template is badly flawed. For example, the...
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